tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9142712941823374697.post3204562831297613264..comments2024-01-08T17:24:37.107-08:00Comments on This Girl's Messy Head: Catching my breathTrish Samshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15557682760734854010noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9142712941823374697.post-30591796892806253442012-07-26T14:15:45.482-07:002012-07-26T14:15:45.482-07:00Thanks for reading! :) It's no fun that we ha...Thanks for reading! :) It's no fun that we have to feel that way, but it's nice to know we're not alone.Trish Samshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15557682760734854010noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9142712941823374697.post-47217345927974162632012-07-26T14:06:50.716-07:002012-07-26T14:06:50.716-07:00I can so relate and I love the last paragraph abou...I can so relate and I love the last paragraph about the time after grief...I was there last week too. We all have and need these moments of adjustment!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02968775323161746642noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9142712941823374697.post-32579010080071957682012-07-26T07:04:34.837-07:002012-07-26T07:04:34.837-07:00I would say that worrying what other people think ...I would say that worrying what other people think is probably one of my major character flaws. I get way too caught up in trying to please everyone. I'm better than I used to be, but definitely not as good as I could be. I totally agree that having some way to let things out is so important. I alternate between my blog & an actual journal b/c if I hold anything in, I think I might be even crazier! *lol* Thanks for reading. :)Trish Samshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15557682760734854010noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9142712941823374697.post-54004900176282572582012-07-24T18:43:43.300-07:002012-07-24T18:43:43.300-07:00I'm not a parent or even a spouse, and my stre...I'm not a parent or even a spouse, and my stress and pressures are different than yours, but the depressed craziness I can definitely relate to. People like us find it difficult to take care of ourselves properly and it just makes things worse. Please stop feeling like you have to please everybody...just say no. It's not selfish, it's keeping your sanity and health so that you can be there for what really counts. <br /><br />My blog is mostly my emotional dumping/whining ground too, but hell, it helps to get it out. Don't refrain from writing out your feelings for fear of 'offending' someone. Write for yourself and don't give a fig what anyone thinks of it.Stevenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13346506272189195497noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9142712941823374697.post-59427828632414123762012-07-23T17:03:32.031-07:002012-07-23T17:03:32.031-07:00You make a very good point (and so does Phyllis Di...You make a very good point (and so does Phyllis Diller). :) My house is far from spotless, I just want to keep it on the acceptable side of messy. If my home is too messy & cluttered, I get really really uptight. It seems funny I'm this way b/c I grew up w/ drug addicts & our house (when we had one), was rarely clean. Now that I have a house of my own, I have this idea in my head that everything should be in it's place & always clean. I know that's impossible w/ kids, a full-time job, & everything else going on. Even though my logical mind tells me I don't have to be perfect, I can't seem to remember that all the time.Trish Samshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15557682760734854010noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9142712941823374697.post-25233989043897050552012-07-23T16:57:29.450-07:002012-07-23T16:57:29.450-07:00I absolutely agree: I push myself harder than I wo...I absolutely agree: I push myself harder than I would ever push anyone else & harder than anyone else would ever push me.Trish Samshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15557682760734854010noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9142712941823374697.post-68344573796876727732012-07-23T16:51:51.135-07:002012-07-23T16:51:51.135-07:00Thanks! :) I was afraid it would seem morbid that...Thanks! :) I was afraid it would seem morbid that the place I chose to go was a cemetery, but you know my Granny was a huge part of my life & it just seemed natural that I'd go somewhere to feel closer to her.Trish Samshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15557682760734854010noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9142712941823374697.post-75812686869776988952012-07-23T16:50:26.845-07:002012-07-23T16:50:26.845-07:00It's definitely something we all experience at...It's definitely something we all experience at one point or another & I agree, a retreat would be very nice. In my fantasy retreat I see me on the beach w/ a blanky & a book. :)Trish Samshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15557682760734854010noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9142712941823374697.post-6694494075796218432012-07-23T15:50:37.405-07:002012-07-23T15:50:37.405-07:00The pressure and responsibility will disappear alo...The pressure and responsibility will disappear along with your ability to see your kids every day. Take it from an old empty-nester and forget about the mundane house chores.Catch My Wordshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06338761214938263819noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9142712941823374697.post-72981514881478480172012-07-23T15:48:21.433-07:002012-07-23T15:48:21.433-07:00You're putting too much pressure on yourself. ...You're putting too much pressure on yourself. I work full time too, which sometimes means leaving the dishes in the sink or spilling laundry baskets. Plus, I don't live here alone, so why should I be the sole person responsible for the upkeep of the house? Part of my creativity as a writer means my house will sometimes be messy. If you don't like it, don't come over. As for my kids, they turned out awesome because I let the house go when raising them. Phyllis Dyller said, "Cleaning house with kids is like shoveling snow while it's still snowing." Let it go. The house mess will still be there later, but your kids' youth won't be. Trust me on this. My kids are now 24,22, and 19.<br /><br />http://joycelansky.blogspot.com/2012/07/gbe2-breathless-or-breathmore.htmlCatch My Wordshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06338761214938263819noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9142712941823374697.post-10477466552240849012012-07-23T15:34:23.030-07:002012-07-23T15:34:23.030-07:00I don't think you sound insane. Life can be ve...I don't think you sound insane. Life can be very overwhelming at times and people do tend to expect too much. Most of the time, the one expecting the most is ourselves. You need a break and a hug. No one can do it all!<br />You can only do the best you can.<br /><br />Kathy<br />http://gigglingtruckerswife.blogspot.comAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11564863484894692249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9142712941823374697.post-74306247912761358402012-07-23T15:20:55.060-07:002012-07-23T15:20:55.060-07:00I think going to visit your Granny's grave is ...I think going to visit your Granny's grave is a great idea to get away from the whirling stresses of life and breath and speak with someone you hold so dear. :) <br /><br />I hope things calm down a bit for you! *hugs*Elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10173270765649283088noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9142712941823374697.post-16601731204292424672012-07-23T14:22:38.262-07:002012-07-23T14:22:38.262-07:00I certainly can relate to this post. I have six ki...I certainly can relate to this post. I have six kids and I keep thinking that the pressures and responsibility are going to be less. Just when I solve one problem, on comes another. But, in all, life is good. I've been feeling a little breathless lately too. A retreat would be nice. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com