I've always considered this my lone struggle until my daughter's most recent well-child check. My kiddo is healthy, but as the doctor gently put it, she "needs to grow into her weight". Basically, she needs to gain height, but stay put weight-wise for awhile. As a mom, I don't notice that sort of thing & if I did, I certainly don't want to make it a big issue for her. I'm so terrified of giving her a complex, I just do what I'm supposed to, which is limit her time spent on sedentary activities and give her healthy food. But that's just not enough sometimes & I realize that.
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To me, the main purpose is to encourage my kiddo to exercise without making her feel bad about her body. Girls have enough inherent body image issues that they don't need over-bearing moms making them self-conscious. Besides, that seems a little hypocritical since I'm overweight myself. Instead, I didn't even present it to her as if it were a big deal. I just told her that I saw the idea for a game board we could make together. I didn't mention that it was purely exercise-oriented. I made it a non-issue and what do ya know?! She loves it! We have things like jumping jacks, lunges, dancing, jumping on the trampoline, stretching, and jogging on the board. We toss the bean bag, then draw a numbered card that indicates how many/how long we're going to do that specific activity.
My personal favorite square on the board is dancing. We do 1 song each time we land on it. We have the choice of dancing along to a youtube video or using Just Dance 3 on our wii. At first we used the wii, but then we started using the video Beyonce made for Michelle Obama's Let's Move campaign. The dance moves are fairly basic, but we're ridiculously uncoordinated! :)
I'll be honest, I'm not real great at the domestics. I don't keep a super clean house, I'm not as patient with my child as I should be, I don't know how to decorate very well, I hate to cook, and I fall short as a wife & mother more often than I succeed. However, I can say that I try really hard to do right by my family. I try to be a good role model and impart whatever nuggets of wisdom I possess upon my mini-me so that she grows into an independent, confident, and happy woman. I encourage her to embrace her intelligence rather than hide it b/c society seems to think boys prefer dumb girls. I remind her all the time that it's good to be different b/c if we were all the same, life would be very boring. I give her unconditional love. She is the one shot I have at assisting God in a miracle and I take that very seriously, even if it's in my own unconventional way.
Just remember to emphasize healthiness- the best thing you can do is live by example and take care of your own health - she'll see that and be inspired to take of her own health for herself and not to please anyone else but herself, because that's why mom eats right and exercises. Good luck to you on this journey that seems to just be beginning.
ReplyDeleteMy mindset is 100% focused on the health aspect. As for Trin, I've just made it a natural, normal thing for her, like everyone in the world draws pictures of stick people doing lunges on a piece of poster board & tosses beanie babies at it. *lol*
DeleteI think it's great that you are doing it as a family. I used to do "Sweatin' to the Oldies" with my Mom and I loved it. Make it fun, and the rest will come! Good luck to you <3
ReplyDeleteEverything just seems more fun when the whole fam gets involved. I forgot about good old Richard Simmons. I'm not a big fan of following fads, but I think Zumba looks kind of fun & thought about getting a Zumba dvd or wii game to try out. It's one of those things that even my kiddo can do, so it would be well worth the cost. Heck, maybe I can even find some Sweatin' To The Oldies at a thrift store & try those out. :)
DeleteYou are a wonderful mother. Seriously...reading the way you did the exercise board game, and the way that you think about what you may say affecting her body image makes me tear up. I'm sure you've read about how obsessed my aunt was with my weight at 5 and up, and lots of dieting and REALLY terrible things being said "Don't you want to have a boyfriend in high school?" type stuff..it is a really big issue for me that women teach their daughters to respect and love their bodies and not to obsess about how much you weight. A+ :)
ReplyDeleteAww, thanks! :) It's extremely important to me that she realizes her worth isn't directly related to her weight. In fact, as we're getting into the routine w/ our heart healthy game, I make it a point not to mention anything about weight to her. I've tried to make it as natural & nonchalant as possible. I don't look at her and think she's anything less than perfect & I don't want her to see herself as anything less than perfect, either. So far it's working out pretty well. She's a very happy & confident little rugrat. I'd like to think I've had a little something to do w/ that. :)
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