Thursday, April 26, 2012

Wifey business

I am participating in the Blogging From A-Z Challenge. Each day in April (except the last 4 Sundays), I will post topic themes that begin with the letters of the alphabet, from A-Z. There is a saying that a woman wears many hats. I'm no exception. During the course of the Blogging From A-Z Challenge, I'll be posting about the different facets of my life. Today's letter is W, which brings us to my role as a wife.


This is my 2nd time doing this wifey thing & I have to say, I think I'm finally getting a handle on it.  The first time around, I had delusions that I was doing it all right, but I know I made plenty of mistakes.  Mostly, I just quit trying after awhile b/c I knew, deep down, that I didn't want that marriage to work.  It was all wrong from the get-go, and although I did put some effort into it, hindsight tells me if I had really loved him, I would have tried much harder.  This time around, however, is a completely different story.  

I'd say as a wife, I'm pretty typical.  I cook, clean, bitch about cooking & cleaning, etc.  The running theme of my life is mediocrity & while I say I'm average at the wifey biz, I do have to say that I am one half of a pretty extraordinary marriage.  Remember, it wasn't that long ago that I blabbered on & on about how awesome our marriage is?!  In fact, I tend to do that a lot.  Not b/c I want to portray the image of a perfect marriage (which we all know doesn't exist), but b/c it's one of the things I'm most proud to be a part of.  The hubs & I have a pretty easy-going relationship.  We sort of fell into it by accident, but it made perfect sense immediately, and we've just been sort of floating w/ the current ever since.

As a team, we're pretty great, but I cannot take the credit for our marriage based solely on my wife-ing skills.  Like I said before, I'm pretty average in most respects.  Except in craziness.  I'm neurotic as the day is long & nobody knows that better than my poor, sweet husband.  As if my random quirks weren't enough to deal with, he also gets front-row seats to my anxiety-addled existence.  Truthfully, I don't envy that man.  How he handles me w/ such grace, I'll never know.

I'm not all thumbs in the wife department.  There are a few things I do well.  For example, I like to leave love notes on the hubs' computer in the morning sometimes. I also send him "just thought you should know I'm thinking of you" texts periodically, and there really is very little I wouldn't do to make him happy or show him how much I love him.  For the most part, the good balances out all my baggage.  I also have past experience & a fully functioning moral compass to guide me through.  Not to mention, it's kind of difficult to be too crappy a wife when you have such a great husband.

Over the course of this challenge, I've talked about my roles as an aunt, daughter, mother, and now, wife.  I really thought it would be easier to compartmentalize them & say something insightful or even witty about each.  (Particularly when it comes to how I sort of stumble haphazardly through it all.)  But truth be told, they sort of blur together.  Each of these facets plays heavily on the next.  I try to be a good wife so I can be an example to my daughter, niece, and nephews.  I try to be a good mom & aunt b/c I fail so horribly at being a good daughter.  Being a good mom is also a quality my husband hoped his wife would have.  Part of being a wife means that I have someone around to step in & help when the other things fall apart.  It also means having someone around to support the things I love just as I support the things he loves.  It all blends together seamlessly when it's right.  And let me tell you, this is one thing that can't get any more right.


  1. Sounds like you are doing something right! congrats on picking right!!

  2. nope. they cant be compartmentalized. we have to be all. wife, mother all the roles you named.

  3. Almost impossible to be a woman and be Just One Thing at a Time.

    Glad the wifey thing is working for you.

  4. Doing the wifey thing right is much easier when the hubby part is a good one! ♥



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