I have expressed my Mommy issues in a previous post so I don't feel there's a need to rehash them now. Also, I don't want to seem like I'm trying to disparage my mom at all b/c that's not my purpose. Our relationship is one that I grapple with internally b/c while I am able to be there for her when she needs me & love her to the extent that I can, I have a lot of guilt that I don't love her the way a daughter should love her mom.
|Mom & Me 1982|
When it comes to my Dad, again, the history isn't that great. However, he doesn't ever try to pretend like he did everything right as a parent, he has apologized more than I feel he needs to for the past, and I have a lot of respect for him.
|Dad & Me 1980|
I've also been blessed with a Mother-in-law whom I love & respect. We don't see eye-to-eye on some things, but never to the point where we have argued or anything like that. She just has some ideals that I consider outdated. I'm sure she probably thinks I'm too progressive & unconventional. I know she wasn't happy that Justin & I went to Vegas to get married b/c she wasn't able to go. (She can be there for our vow renewal in 2016, though, so that might gain me a few points.)
|Mom In Law & Me 2009|
I really do try to be an attentive & loving daughter. I wasn't terribly out of control as a teenager, but I know I put my parents through the ringer more than once, so I make up for that by being the kind of child who doesn't make them lose sleep from worrying about me. I have a pretty solid handle on life, I don't do drugs or drink excessively. I take good care of my child, my marriage is stable, I have lived on my own since I was 16 years old & I have held the same job for over 11 years. My parents are all dealing w/ a lot right now. My mom has an inoperable tumor in her brain, my dad is currently going through chemo for colon cancer, and my mother in law is in the midst of selling the home she's lived in for over 20 years after a nasty divorce. The only way I alleviate the sense of failure as a daughter is by not adding any more stress to their lives. It's not perfect, but I'll take it.